Pub’d on WWAMBam: How 4 Western Women Experience Birth with their Chinese Husbands

I’ve written another article elsewhere on the web.

Zoe and I are still working on establishing a routine that will give me the time to devote to updating the blog.

I compiled four WWAM birthing experiences, including my own. Some of the ladies gave birth in China, one in the UK and my experience took place in the U.S. We talk about 坐月子, the Chinese tradition of postpartum confinement.

There were quite a few unrelated WWAM experiences I had during my pregnancy and labor and delivery so there will be another post on this blog about that (I know I said I won’t turn into a mommy blogger and such posts will be limited).


I also know I’ve touted the collective WWAMBam! blog numerous times here, but if you haven’t checked it out yet, head over there to read an array of WWAM content from Western Women married to Asian Men. Most still live in China (I believe there’s a new contributer who lives in S. Korea with her S. Korean husband).

It’s inspiring that such a collective exists, where not only group posts get many people contributing their stories, but the original contributers provide support for those of us less WordPress savvy bloggers (yes, that’s me!) as well as edit posts. Can’t complain about the chance to have another set of eyes glancing over my work.

I’m fairly smitten with the birthing experience I had and really look forward to hearing from you, my readers either here or on the WWAMBam! post.

Thank you, as always, for stopping by,


Our pre-wedding photo pub’d on WWAM Bam

Jocelyn of Speaking of China put together a rather exquisite post of Photos of WWAM couples who got married. It’s amazing how many Western women marry Asian men and you’ll surely find some new ladies captured in marital bliss in the article.

Most are pre-wedding photos, a popular tradition in Asia where couples go to photo studios, dress up in formal attire so pictures of the bride and grrom can then be displayed at the wedding ceremony. Read all about our low-key pre-wedding photo shoot.

If you check out Jocelyn’s article, try to avoid self-promoting your photography business as that completely misses the point of the post…I’ll let you decipher that message all on your own 😄

What’s in a name?

It’s all at stake when choosing a name for your soon-to-be child. The stakes are doubled when bringing two cultures into the mix. In our case, quadrupled because we’re tasked with finding names for both genders. No one to blame but my stubborn self for not wanting to know…there’s not enough surprises left in life, at least that’s what I keep telling myself.

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Breaking the blog silence

Xiananigans will resume weekly posts Sunday.

I could use the age-old excuse of being “too busy” to write, but that’s not really the case. Lacking self-discipline to carve out time for writing each day and not holding myself accountable because “hey, I’m pregnant” sounds like a legitimate excuse to that pesky, inner critic are the main factors holding me back.

Also, placing blame on burnout from work where eight hours of my day is spent in front of a screen, either reading, editing and proofing copy, sounds good to me.

However, in the earlier hours of my day, I’m not stepping away from the screen, instead indulging in Netflix, an occasional podcast and catching up on conversations in various WeChat groups.

Putting creative endeavors on the back burner won’t work any longer, I’m afraid. When Baby Z arrives in about two months, give or take a week or two, beginning a writing routine will pose a greater challenge.

There’s so many ideas, too many in fact, I have for this space (there are 30 drafts in various stages of despair). I’ll also resume accepting guest posts. Do you have a blog of your own? I’d be much obliged to guest post there, too.

Here’s to breaking the blog silence, resuming an outlet and reconnecting with a thriving, growing niche blogging community.

And while you eagerly await Sunday, go check out other blogs by Western Women Who Love Chinese Men, including the collective offerings on WWAM Bam!

A rather timely post, given the headlines as of late, is Jocelyn’s recent article on her blog Speaking of China. Talk about outrageous double standards and a foreboding sense that history really is repeating itself…




No matter how you say it in Chinese, today ushers in the Year of the Rooster.

ZJ and I will be able to properly ring in the Chinese New Year (春节) tomorrow as our days off finally sync up.

If you haven’t already done so, go check out WWAM Bam! to read a plethora of CNY-inspired posts:

How 7 Western Women Celebrate CNY

Celebrating CNY in Shanxi

Tibetan New Year Traditions

China’s New Year Gala

Celebrating CNY in America

Dealing with CNY annoyances

You can also read my previous 春节 posts here on the blog:

Spring Festival in China, CNY in U.S.

The First Spring Festival in rural Shaanxi

Wishing you all a Happy Year of the Rooster. Looking forward to mid-May when we welcome our own little rooster 😄